Williamson, NY Divorce Law Firms & Lawyers

It's not as difficult as it might seem. You have to do a "diligent" search, which generally means you hire an attorney and go through some non-public databases as well as contact relatives, etc., and if the person still can't be found you go to court and seek permission for alternative service.

I'm sorry for your trouble. Getting a divorce in NY will depend on whether or not your spouse agrees to get the divorce, and whether or not your spouse agrees to divide the assets, arrange the custody and visitation of the children, and arrange any support payments (as applicable). There will be residency requirements that, in your case, the facts indicate that your satisfy, as you both live in New York, you were married in New York, and some of the treatment to which you are being subjected seems to have happened in New York as well. To file for divorce in New York, you will need grounds, which is kind of your reason for divorce.  They include abandonment, terrible treatment, and a total breakdown of the marriage. Your child custody issues sound like they may be contentious, you definitely ought to seek counsel before you proceed with this case.  Lots of luck to you, Eric Reimer  

You may be able to seek legal fees if he violates the terms of your divorce agreement. If he continues stalking you, that may be considered a violation of the "no molestation" clause of your agreement. Talk to some attorneys to get a better idea of your options.