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There are a few questions/issues here.  First, yes, you can reach a settlement with just a mediator, many people do it.  However, I generally advise people with few assets or simple financial issues to utilize this method as neither side is being provided with specific, personalized legal guidance.  A mediator can only facilitate your agreement, not provide either of you with specific legal advice.  In your situation, it sounds like there is potentially a large amount of money at stake.  Being sure you get an appropriate settlement is important not only for your survival, but for your ability to support your children.  maintenance (formerly known as alimony) is separate from child support.  I would suggest you consult an attorney to discuss the details, your questions, and concerns and ensure you are informed before entering into an agreement.  You may choose to continue with mediation without an attorney, but at least you will be better informed.  Once you make a deal, it becomes much more difficult (and expensive!) to try to change it down the road.

Yes. The place where you were married has nothing to do with where you can or must get a divorce. Where you are living on a permanent basis at the time you desire to end the marriage is what controls where you can get divorced.